streched earlobes

hey just wondering a couple things i know this is a tattoo forum, but i know people here have some sort of body modifications and seeing if anyone has the same problem. k. i've had my ears streched for around 5 years. and just recently got to an inch. i had ripped them and got a blow out from skipping sizes. from not knowing what i was doing pretty much. but i got up to around 3/4 inch and my ear the blow out strated to get worse, so i put tea tree oil on it, went away, few months later it wqas back, no big deal do it again. same thing. dont mind having to do it once in awhile. but then i put it on again, and my ear lobe went kinda wrinkly inside from the blow out, and now the back is harding up not like hard but harder tissue. any one know anyone or have themselve got them scalped? off? or i also heard about using extra virgin olive oil to soften the tissues. just lookin for some suggestions. thanks